Sital Ruparelia

“What goes around, comes around”
“We reap what we sow”

Do you often hear people quoting such cliches?

The thing with some cliches is there is often some truth in them. The truth in these ones lies in the notion that you should give what you yourself want – and when you do that, the thing you want most shows up.

So what is it you most want right now?

* Want more money?
- Give what you can by means of a donation or assistance to someone else
- Help someone else with their investments or money making ideas

* Want more time?
- Give some of your time to others
- Share some time management or productivity tips with someone else

* Want more contacts?
- Connect others to people in your network

* Want more clients?
- Help others find clients by sharing contacts, referrals and advice 

* Want a new job?
- Provide some kind of employment to someone: a student intern, a book keeper, a cleaner. It can be paid, barter or unpaid 

* Want better career opportunities?
- Help create opportunities for others

* Want some help with your job search or career?
- Go help someone who needs help with looking for a new job

* Want a better CV or resume?
- Help someone improve their CV / resume

* Want better relationships with your colleagues?
- Go help a friend or colleague improve their professional relations

* Want to do more meaningful work?
- Help someone else find meaning in their work

* Want a better boss?
- Start being a better leader to your own team. If you don’t lead a team, become a better leader to stakeholders, your community, your kids, or  even your cleaner / maid

* Want to have more fun at work?
- Make work more interesting and fun for your team and the people around you

* Want to be inspired?
- Go and inspire someone else. Your team, your colleagues, your kids

* Want to feel good about yourself?
- Go give someone else a lift and help them feel better about themselves

* Want to be valued and respected?
- Start valuing and respecting others more
- Better still, start valuing & respecting yourself more and others will follow

When you do this, a few things happen:

1. You learn more about how to get the thing you want

e.g I learn just as much about managing careers by writing these articles as the readers – it forces me to organise my thoughts and ideas which helps me too

2. You immediately feel good about yourself. Giving and helping others gives most people a natural high – which helps you in moving forward with your own goals

3. You strengthen your bonds with other people. Stronger relationships make you much stronger and more effective

4. The thing you most want starts to show up – and just like a boomerang, very often from a completely unexpected direction

It may seem completely counter-intuitive to give away the thing you most want – but it works.

Give it a go….